The author talks a lot about warning signs to see if what you may have had when you married was actually faux love. He says some of those signs are: misunderstanding, conflict, separation, disunity and physical dysfunction. If a couple is struggling with these things, it is an indication there isn't a proper foundation of real love in the relationship.
He says some couples marry because of physical attraction; some because of emotional connection; some because of cultural similarity (having similar interests and/or backgrounds); and some because of spiritual commonality. Tripp explains that faux love is when one person marries another because of what she can get out of the relationship, how she benefits, how he fits into the picture of the life she wants.
When reality hits and she sees his sinfulness and her expectations aren't met (and vice versus), problems begin to increase. Tripp offers a solution to this problem in marriage...an all too common problem. He clarifies what real love is, encourages couples to change their perspective and challenges them to learn to love their spouses with real love.
As I've read other Christian books on marriage, I've learned that there is a question in the heart of every woman that begs for an answer, every day. She continually asks herself, "Does he really love me?" No matter how solid of a relationship a woman has in marriage, apparently, it is "normal" for her to confront this question often.
The blessing of this chapter in this book at this time for this analytical girl: affirmation that the relationship I think I have with my husband is the relationship we have.
It also presents an excellent challenge to continue daily dying to self and putting his interests before my own. Spiritual challenges are so helpful...
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