As I mentioned in Home, Part 1, I love days when Matt is off work and he can choose how to use his time. Since he works Monday through Saturday most weeks, it's a rare treat for him to have a day he doesn't have to leave the house unless he wants to leave.
Often though, I've had trouble figuring out how to map out my day when he's home. It's as if I'm waiting for him to let me know how I fit into his day. Oddly, these rare days that I love so much for him, have ended up unsatisfying for me.
It's as if I'm trying too hard to be available if he wants to include me in some aspect of his day. Since he's not typically one to plan, I try to go with the flow, but really I find I'm suspending any plans I may make on my own so I don't have to adjust on the fly when he wants me to do something.
I've finally learned that I need to make my own plan for the day and do what I see fit to do. Still, I asked him his plan so I'd know how he envisioned me fitting into it. He mentioned a few things: exercise, review the budget, family prayer time and gather tax documents. It worked out pretty well today, but when he wanted me to go to the gym with him, I had just gotten into something requiring my focused attention and I had a load of laundry to fold while it was still warm. It was hard to break away!
Fortunately, he knows me so well, he just gave me the time he planned to leave and asked if I'd be ready. I had to hustle to fit everything in before leaving and I made us about 5 minutes late, but he's laid back enough that it worked out fine for us both. I was winded from running to get it all done (but it was finished) and he left a little later than planned (but had me with him). :)
I must admit this was the first time I've felt really good about one of these days in every respect. If only it lasted longer!
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